Happy birthday young lady

Today my daughter turns 16. This is one of those significant birthdays, at least in America, ever since Neil Sedaka sang “Happy Birthday Sweet 16.” I remember the day of my daughter Bethany’s birth quite well. Mainly because it was 2 in the morning when my wife alerted me that contractions had begun. We blamed it on the jambalaya we’d shared with friends the night before. No, this was something a lot more momentous than indigestion. Our little lady, perhaps spurred on by the double dose of pepper seasoning in the previous night’s meal, decided Jan. 20, 1996 was a good day to be born.

And so she came and Julia’s and my life has changed forevermore. With two boys, one on either side of our girl, we’ve seen the ups and downs of a boy’s life. But a little girl is a whole different story. I never would have known the joys of little girl hugs or giving voice to a Ken doll in her Barbie adventures or knowing the sweetness of a little lady that reminded me of her mom. Not to make this all joy and light, but you know, it is her birthday. So, as she enters ever more closely to that stage of life which she will inhabit the rest of her days, that stage called adulthood, I offer my dear girl this verse, which guided me to her mother:

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

May you be a woman who fears the Lord and brings forth beauty into the world from the storehouse inside where the Spirit dwells. Bless you my girl and happy birthday.

 

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Tebow tapping into that old Frank Reich feeling

I’m fascinated by my support of Tim Tebow. Why would I, a lifelong Cleveland Browns fan whose team has suffered under the Broncos hooves, cheer for their quarterback and, henceforth, ”them.” Why am I excited about attending a party to watch the aforementioned Broncos football team play the New England Patriots? 

For years we’ve been hearing players thank God, thank Jesus, praise the Lord, etc. for the opporutnity to play, for the chance to do something special with their athletic gifts, for a big victory.

One of the most eloquent of these was Frank Reich, backup quarterback to Jim Kelly for the Buffalo Bills in the years the Bills played in four Super Bowls. Reich had just led the Bills to a completely unexpected victory over the Houston Oilers, who had an insurmountable lead of 35-3 in the middle of the 3rd quarter. When the game was over Reich gave credit for Buffalo’s victory to “Christ alone.” (For more on that game, check out this video: watch?v=MhASCL-3GwU)

“Any time I get an opportunity to tell him that I love him or given an opportunity to shout him out on national TV, I’m gonna take that opportunity.” (from USA Today, by Nate Davis, 11/23/11)

Why am I finding this so refreshing? Is it that I’m experiencing the joy of the Holy Spirit in the midst of my love of sports? Is it that for one of a handful of times in my life, I’m more concerned about the performance of a player, rather than my team? Is it that I sense God’s hand in this, somehow, someway. Who else has inspired people all over the country to look up John 3:16, just because he passed for 316 yards against the Steelers last wekeend?

However this turns out, win or loss, I pray Tim Tebow has the courage and conviction by God’s spirit to do what he’s been doing all season – pass the praise to the one who really deserves it.

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Texting, smartphones addictive, according to study

Isn’t God’s timing fantastic? I think I was just writing about this recently . . .

By SARA PAUFF — McClatchy Newspapers
Posted: 3:00am on Jan 4, 2012; Modified: 8:12am on Jan 4, 2012

COLUMBUS, Ga. — When Adrian Weldon has a few minutes to spare, he’s probably going to use them to text.

“I came here to kill time and text,” he said, sitting at Lakebottom Park Thursday afternoon. “At least it’s not driving and texting.”

Weldon said he uses his phone mostly for texting, sending quick messages while he’s at work and can’t call people on the phone, and when he’s bored. If you ask him if he’s addicted, he says he’s not sure.

“My girlfriend says I am,” he said.

If Weldon is addicted to his phone, he’s not alone.

While addiction to apps or text-ing is not a recognized medical condition, there have been numerous studies produced on whether the technology causes more harm than good.
A study by Case Western Reserve School of Medicine found that teens who spend a lot of time on texting or on social media are also more like to use drugs or alcohol and get into fights.

Using a smartphone or computer just before bed can lead to sleep loss, according to a study from the National Sleep Foundation.

But ignoring your phone can be difficult.

A recent article in the New York Times by author and brand consultant Martin Lindstorm claimed the top three most powerful affecting sounds in the world are baby giggles, the Intel chime and a vibrating phone.

Weldon confesses to feeling lost without his phone. He never turns it off.

“Even when it’s charging, it’s on,” he said. “I left it once and went home on my lunch break just to get it.”

Smartphones also can be habit-forming, according to a study by Helsinki Institute for Information Technology and Intel Labs. Researchers found that smartphone users in the U.S. and in Finland checked their phone repeatedly throughout the day, usually for less than 30 seconds.

They observed that the checks are usually triggered by the same things – a person may always check email while commuting or always check the news when bored.

“It’s a boredom buster,” said Mary Virginia Wehrenberg. She said she typically uses her smartphone truly as a phone, but the apps and texting also poses a great distraction when you’re stuck waiting for something.

Sharlene Brown said she tries to ration the time she spends on her smartphone. She’s a fan of Words with Friends – a popular Scrabble-like game – and frequently plays using a dictionary app so she can check to make sure she’s using real words.

“I don’t win as often but I love it.” She said it’s easy to waste time on her phone, especially on rainy or lazy days. Her kids – ages 8 and 4 – like playing games on her phone, too, but she only lets them use it for 15 to 30 minutes a day. “I do limit the time,” she said. “Children shouldn’t have it all the time.”

But there are benefits to the apps and texting a smartphone offers. Brown said there are math and word games available for her kids, like Quizard, an app that lets you create your own educational flashcards. “It’s interactive. They get an immediate response.”

Texting also gives her more time with her kids, because she’s not always on the phone.
“It’s an easier way to communicate. You send them a quick text,” she said. “You don’t want to take away from time with kids.”

Read more here: http://www.centredaily.com/2012/01/04/3039920/studies-reveal-addictive-nature.html#storylink=cpy

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iGod?

I’ve wondered why teens and 20-somethings and so many others seem attached to their electronic devices like a Siamese twin. I’ve got a theory, and it goes back to how I use my computer and social networking sites. These things are addictive! If you’re feeling lonely, just tweet or text or check your Facebook account. If you’re feeling a little aimless, do the same and see what you can stir up or is getting stirred up by someone else. Instead of relying on our ability to stimulate ourselves, we’re constantly looking to the laptop, cell phone, or handheld device to entertain us or motivate us or at least keep us busy doing something instead of nothing.

But here’s something else I’ve noted. Such extreme dependence on being plugged in, instead of being a great way to build your friendships, is actually a negative. Note the word “extreme” in my previous sentence; there is a healthy way to use this stuff. I am not anti-Facebook or anti-Twitter or anti-cell phone. I use them all.

I have seen unhealthy dependence in my own life. Because of this I’ve made choices not to look at social media for a time because I was trying to get something from those connections that needed to come from my relationship with God or my face-to-face relationship with other human beings. Or I was using social media as a way to avoid some constructive endeavor, a project that would be healthy for me and fruitful for others.  Even now I got stuck for a minute about what to say and my mind instantly suggested, “Hey, you should check your email.” Nothing wrong with that, but I think use of these communication tools has to be reined in a bit. I don’t have to give in to every impulse to post a new status update or check out what’s happening on Yahoo.

I think about the Apostle Paul’s statement, “I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air. No, I beat my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.” (1 Corinthians 9:26-27, NIV).  

Am I slave to my impulses? Have I got the ability to gut-check each thought and determine if looking at LinkedIn is a good decision right now or do I just need to keep rolling with this blog? I know God has given these things for our enjoyment but I shouldn’t be mastered by them either:

“From now on those who…buy something, [should use it] as if it were not theirs to keep; those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away.” (1 Corinthians 7:29-31)

So, happy Facebooking, tweeting, posting, chatting, texting and everything else this New Year. May these tools be your servants for good rather than masters that distract you from God’s best.

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Are we doing as God wants with our parents?

Talked with a friend today about a rarity in family life that wasn’t a rarity a generation or so ago: children seeing their parents interact regularly and often with grandparents. Both of us have had the rare privilege and challenge of being an example to our children in this area.

A few years back my own mom was living in an assisted living facility. We’d see her at least once a week and usually take the kids along. It was mildly amusing and also bittersweet the way the other residents would react to David and Bethany, as if they’d never seen anyone younger than 20 before in their lives. They weren’t interested in a creepy way, but in an affectionate and lonely way. I don’t think many of those residents saw their own children or their children’s children.  

My mom came to live with us 5 years ago and I realized today that our interactions with my mom is offering my sons and daughter a blueprint for their future relationship with Julia and I. Of course, they aren’t robots who will only act in accordance with their programming. They will make their own choices about relating with us.

As I think about Paul’s comment that we should follow the example of Christ, it does make me pause. What kind of a template are we creating for the youngsters? Do  our children see us spending time with my mom, inviting her to things, listening, resolving disagreements, laughing with her or do they see us avoiding her, getting agitated, speaking poorly of her? Lord, I hope more the former and not so much the latter.

I hope, that in our own imperfect way, Julia and I (and the kids) are obeying the command of 1 Timothy 5:4,

But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God. (NIV)

How interesting that church members’ interactions with aging parents was at the heart of Paul’s guidance about leading the church. How important is this area to God? So important that care for widows is one of the most talked about ethical issues in the Bible, Old and New Testaments.   

And it isn’t just about aging moms and dads. Paul goes on in 1 Tim 5:8,

If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Maybe you’ll visit an aging relative this Christmas, perhaps a parent, but maybe an aunt or uncle. Maybe it’s your dad’s cousin or your mom’s high school friend who became like family. Maybe you’re the last family tie this person has. Maybe, just maybe, this is a good time to reflect and pray on how the Lord may want you to bring the Christmas spirit into the rest of the year with this older person. Or maybe it’s a time to celebrate how God has helped you to love them and ask him for power and grace to stay faithful. Either way, happy Christmas to you and to all you love, both young and old.

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Stop and Rest Ye This Christmas

I made a crucial decision yesterday afternoon: I stopped to watch a movie with my son. That may not sound like much, but like many of us I have that truly American mindset of “Go, Go , Go.” If I’m not going, then something isn’t getting done and if something isn’t getting done then chaos is just around the corner. We don’t want chaos now do we? OK, I exaggerate a little. But not much.

I’m between quarters as a professor at a local community college, so I’m doing things like reorganizing and straightening my home office, preparing for teaching new classes and various household tasks I’ve wanted to do or that are related to the Christmas season. But I sensed recently that in my ardor to be productive during this between-work time, I may have missed some chances to enjoy God’s rest.

It’s really the old Mary and Martha thing again. “Martha, Martha,” the Lord said to the sister who couldn’t stop preparing for dinner. “You are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:41-42, NIV) Her sister, Mary, chose instead to sit and listen to Jesus.

Here’s what I discovered as I watched that silly movie with my son: we laughed together, we talked about lying (a major theme of the film), we talked about a paper he had to work on about white lies (how well timed was this movie?), and more than anything we just enjoyed being with each other.

I realize there’s a lot of preparation going on, presents to buy, cookies to make, decorations to put up and money to be spent. But did you ever think that one of the blessings of this time of year is just this: God wants you to stop and enjoy him and the people he’s put in your life. As the Westminster Shorter Catechism states, “Man’s chief end is to glorify God, and to enjoy him forever.”

This takes prayer. Stopping, in and of itself, does not mean we’re enjoying Jesus or others, especially if everyone is doing their own thing and not really being together. Even sitting around the Christmas tree with everyone may not bring true rest. Maybe God wants you to mix things up a bit: sing a Christmas carol, or have everyone share one thing they’re grateful for this holiday season. Or, maybe the craziest of all, pray together, and not just grace before dinner. I’m talking real meeting with God together to ponder the meaning of this holiday and listen for Him and love each other. Ask Jesus how he wants to bring his rest into your life this season.

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Leave the freaking out to God

Watched “Horton Hears a Who” again for the 4th or 5th time last night. Certain movies get alot of repeat time around the Boyd house. As my 9-year-old put it, “There’s a lot of good messages in that movie.” True enough. One of those is where Horton (voiced by Jim Carrey) tells the Mayor of Whoville (voiced by Steve Carrell), “Leave the freaking out to me.” The comparisons aren’t perfect, but in many ways the Mayor describes Horton the way we describe God, so making this bridge was easy for me.

Philippians 4:6-7 tells us we shouldn’t be anxious about anything, but instead give God the issues that are causing us anxiety. When we do present that stuff to the Lord, we’re promised a peace that surpasses understanding. In our society, anxiety doesn’t hit as much of a bell as “freaking out.” We all freak out. Some of us freak out more than others. Some of us keep our freaking out quiet but it shows up other ways: nervous habits; unexpected emotional explosions; various pains, spasms and other physical ailments. I twist and pull the hair on my arms and legs. It isn’t pretty. I purse my lips. I see it in off-the-cuff pictures of myself. There’s other stuff too.

In the spirit of the season that seems to evoke more freaking out than normal, I encourage you all to leave the freaking out to God. Whatever you’re freaking out about, give it to him this Christmas season and focus on the things you should really focus on, like Jesus, like loved ones, like spending meaningful time with people, like reflecting on the salvation God offers. Then you’ll get some of that peace God promises. After all, He meant what he said and he said what he meant. He is faithful, 100 percent.

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Great video about highlights of 2011

I’m not one of those Christians who thinks you have to cite a Bible verse to back up every action. For instance, this video: mostly I think it’s just cool. However, just because God is cooler than I’ll ever be, he can use something like this to give me material to have a conversaiton or connect with someone (ala 1 Corinthians 9:22-23). So I can now say to someone I meet on the street, “Hey, did you see that crazy guy surfing the 90-foot wave?” or I can offer to my college students, “Did you see the picture of the cyclops shark?” (The most amazing thing gets about one second of video at 1:21: an actual house lifted in the sky by balloons like in the Disney movie “Up). And, as I’ve discovered over and over again, you never know where a little thing like that can go. So, enjoy, and maybe God will transform your little video view into something unbelievable today. He’s good that way.

www.yearinreview.yahoo.com/2011/blog/7045/the-most-astounding-moments-of-2011/

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Certainty about the future: 2012 and beyond

Credit: LeClair/Reuters/Corbis

Apparently 2012 will not see the end of the world, but just the transition into a new era. This is according to Australian researcher Sven Gronemeyer, who said the Mayan calendar ends at 2012 because the ancient Mexican culture was looking forward to the arrival of one of its gods, Bolon Yokte (For more go to Mayans never predicted).

As a Christian and a believer in the Bible, I was never too concerned about the doomsday predictions. On one hand, I didn’t share the snarky suspicions of some in the media, who view all such prognostications with furrowed-brow condescension. The Bible does talk about an end of this current world system and a world ruled by Jesus. But Jesus was very careful to say that he didn’t even know the hour or the day when this would happen, only the Father.

Some might look at this new information about the Mayan calendar as a prediction of the coming of the antichrist. I think it’s a stretch since the Mayans believed Bolon Yokte was the god of creation and war. One interpretation of biblical prophecy, which I hold, says there will be a 7-year period of rule by a figure who sets himself up as god. This 7-year timeframe, known as the Tribulation, is predicted in places like Daniel 9:27. About this world ruler, 2 Thessalonians 2:4 notes,

He will oppose and will exalt himself over everything that is called God or is worshiped, so that he sets himself up in God’s temple, proclaiming himself to be God.

At the end of that 7 years, Jesus will come to establish his rule. So, will we see the antichrist at the end of 2012? Only God the father knows. In 2 Thessalonians, Paul says the arrival of this person will be marked by amazing and miraculous displays of power meant to wow and woo the earth’s population into following him. Daniel says this person will make a peace treaty with the people of Israel. I suppose if we see someone doing grand and spectacular things and talking about making a deal to guarantee Israel’s safety, then we’ll have something to worry about.

How will I react when the arrival of the end is near, if I live to see that day? I hope I have peace and confidence. I think I will. I do know this, whether the day of reckoning is near or far, I should cultivate the attitude of the famous believers of the past, who, rather than have such predictions rattle their world, were “longing for a better country—a heavenly one. Therefore God is not ashamed to be called their God, for he has prepared a city for them” (Hebrews 11:16).

No Mayan prediction or any other prognostication can mess with that certain destiny.

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There’s more to Tebow than his crazy stats

I love how people don’t understand Tim Tebow. The Denver Broncos rookie quarterback has started the last 4 games for the Broncos and they are now 5 – 5. Before Tebow started they were 1-4. A little bit of Florida sunshine has filtered through those Rocky Mountain storm clouds. The Broncos won again last night, this time against the New York Jets, with Tebow making a 20-yard dash for the end zone with 58 seconds left. Final: Broncos 17, Jets 13.

Before I go too far, you must know that in a certain corner of my heart it pains me to write positively about a young man linked with teams who have been the source of three of my most agonizing sports spectator experiences. As a Gator, Tebow was the backup to starter Chris Leak in Florida’s complete domination of my favored but outgunned Ohio State Buckeyes in the 2007 BCS National Championship game. In one short yardage situation after another the Buckeye defense could not stop this dude.

And then, as a Bronco, Tebow is now part of an organization associated with two of the most infamous events in my favorite pro football team’s history, known simply as The Drive and The Fumble. Anyone who’s a Cleveland Browns fan knows. Even writing this blog about Tebow will put me in the doghouse with many – pun completely intended. Again, it’s a Browns thing.

So you can stop wondering whether I’ll scatter rose petals on the ground in front of this guy. Tim, you’re a nice fella, but I can’t do that. Even without my very real personal biases, I have to look at Tebow’s statistics and think, as most do, “What’s up?!” Right now, according to ESPN.com, Tebow ranks 34th  among all NFL quarterbacks for passing attempts and 35th for completions. And it isn’t just that he’s only started half the games. Lower figures would be expected but Tebow’s numbers are, how to put it – odd.

Statistically, Tim Tebow is keeping company with QBs like John Skelton, a second-year pro out of Fordham University who will start just his third game for the Arizona Cardinals this weekend. Nothing against Skelton, but he’s a young guy just getting his shot, similar in a way to Tebow but without the fanfare. According to ESPN.com, Skelton completed 21 of 40 passes last week in the Cardinals win over Philadelphia. Respectable. In comparison, Tebow was 21 for 49 . . . for the month of November.

In last night’s triumph over the Jets, Tebow connected with receivers 9 of 20 times. In last Sunday’s game against the Kansas City Chiefs, his figures are even more mesmerizing – 2 for 8 for 69 yards and one of those completions was for a touchdown. However, he ran 9 times for 43 yards. For the season he’s run 56 times for almost 400 yards. Are you kidding me?

This is the kind of reaction Tebow has been getting all over the football world. Sports writers and broadcasters are beside themselves trying to figure this guy out. Some, correctly I think, say that Tebow needs to develop more of a passing game to succeed long-term. Others say that will come, just give him time, other quarterbacks with successful NFL careers started out with strong legs and suspect arms. Some are just downright derisive, calling him a college QB in a pro game, saying he won’t last at this pace, that some topnotch defense is going to plaster him and that will be the end of it.

I have a suspicion Tim Tebow doesn’t care one way or the other about all this. I’m sure Tebow is also quite aware of the fact that his mile-high moment could be short-lived. Life is unpredictable and life in the NFL can be downright perilous. But with every victory I hear Tebow giving credit to God for his abilities and thanking Jesus for his mercy. Now, if I’m reading my Bible right, God tends to use people who inspire others to say, “What’s up with that guy?”, “He’s a nobody,” “How can he be successful?”, “There’s no way he should be doing that.” Keep your eye on this Tebow guy. There’s something happening here that no stat sheet can capture.

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